Can divorce be a clean fight? Sure can.
by Alex Williams
A divorce is not and must not be a war zone. It should be dealt with carefully, otherwise there will be casualties. From the moment you reach a decision about getting a
divorce, you should talk about various aspects of dividing your property, taking care of your children and making rules about co-parenting. Keep the anger at bay and
focus on the most important things.
The Finances
As a married couple you have shared many things, from the same bed to the same bank accounts. When the divorce comes,
you should cancel joint accounts, in order to prevent
any potential misuse and make sure everyone gets their fair share it will prevent the angry spouse from misusing it. Also, you should pay all the bills that need to be paid
and contact your creditors to inform them of the present changes. Overall, there will be agreement terms on the table which will leave one or both of you with less money,
family time or property. Nevertheless, if you keep your head calm and clear and accept some sacrifices, your spouse may even do the same for you. This can only lead to a
clean break and fair division of assets.
Find Clean Professionals
It is hard to negotiate when being emotional and facing a huge transition in your life. Since divorces are emotionally fraught and challenging, you should find a professional
who will understand the importance of keeping things clean and reasonable. Let’s assume your spouse and their lawyers have the same intentions, because the alternative could be
a significant problem. If you’re all on the same page and your representatives understand that you wish to maintain a decent relationship, then the agreement should be reached
quickly and painlessly. Moreover, many people in America decide to
file divorce in California through the Internet
in order to get it over with no problems and disagreements.
That is probably the best option, since you can find the best professionals whose only interest is keeping the proceedings clean.
Anger Management
Fury in a divorce is almost inevitable. However, you have to find the ways of avoiding fights with your ex in order to prevent other problems. Find solutions for venting
away your anger in a constructive manner through therapists, various support groups and even your friends and family. Don’t seek for advice; ask all of them to help you keep
the anger issues at bay. Also, don’t make unexpected visits to your in-laws asking them to punish your spouse. Keep your dignity and approach this tedious issue with a
cold head. Your calmness might even disturb your spouse, but your decisions will be right and you will benefit from a divorce. Avoid mess at all costs and exit this battle
as a winner – if there are any winners here at all.
Ignore Others
Of course, some of your friends, family or co-workers know someone who got a great deal after the divorce and now lives happily ever after. This is when the insecurity might
kick in and make you doubt your abilities and what you deserve. Also, it might make you think that all divorces end happily, but those who told you about the "guy they know
who ended up with a great deal", don’t have all the facts. If they haven’t gone through the process themselves, you should ignore them and only ask for a shoulder to lean on.
You should only rely on yourself and the professionals to secure you the best deal possible and never listen to some stories from the people around you. Face the facts and the
whole divorce shebang as it is, and you will not get disappointed or left with nothing.
Take Care of Your Children
The only ones who will suffer the most during the divorce are your kids. The very news that Mommy and Daddy are separating is frustrating and too hard for them to process
without blaming themselves. That’s why your only job is to assure them that everything is alright and that both of you still love them the most. Also, make sure that both
of you wish to continue seeing your children and want to take care of them equally; no child should suffer just because you hate each other. Their safety and a healthy life
should be a priority for both of you at any time.
As you can see, a cold head and clean professionals will turn a war zone into a peaceful negotiation between two adults. Find the way to manage the anger and think about your
children, everything else is just boring formality that should be done with quickly and with the minimum of fuss.
About the Author
My name is Alex Williams, born and raised in beautiful Sydney. I am a journalism graduate, and a rookie blogger
trying to find my luck. Blogs are the perfect opportunity for presenting yourself to wider audience, getting
the chance to showcase my expertise and receiving recognition. I am a regular contributor at BizzMark Blog.
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